Category: Perfectionism
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Am I a People-pleaser or a Perfectionist?
How perfectionism and people-pleasing traits develop As with many personality traits, these may develop as adaptive coping mechanisms which allow us to better react to the conditions of our childhood, such as the values, beliefs, rules, or general tone in our family of origin. Specifically, we are told directly or indirectly by our parents/caregivers that…
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Common Thinking Patterns that Increase Anxiety
Our Brain is Wired to see Worst-Case Scenarios Our brain is very good at putting things into categories – it has evolved to do this as a way of keeping us safe from danger. We learn to discern things as “good/bad”, “safe/unsafe”. Our brain also has the propensity toward preparing for worst-case scenarios, with the…
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Perfectionism causing problems? Transform it into healthy striving in 4 steps
Tired of your perfectionism getting in the way? Here is our 4-step process for helping you transform your perfectionism into healthy striving! 💃🕺🏻 Step 1️⃣: List the ways your perfectionism both benefits & costs you Your perfectionism is (or was) serving you, otherwise you wouldn’t have this tendency. Notice how it’s starting to get in…
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What’s under your need to be perfect?
On the surface, all we see is “perfectionistic”, “neurotic”, sometimes controlling behaviour, but if we look a little deeper we can begin to understand, that underneath perfectionism there’s a lot going on …🦈 There are many ways perfectionism shows up in our life and can GET IN THE WAY of how we live (read…
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Understanding perfectionsim & how to get it under control
Hands up if you have some perfectionistic tendencies? 🙋♀️ We tend to think of perfectionism as a positive trait – we may envision a very successful person who is detail-oriented and reliable. However, there is a difference between “healthy striving” and problematic perfectionism. 😀😬 What is perfectionism & how does it relate to…