Category: Relationships
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I’m ready to go to couples therapy, but my partner isn’t. What now?
Having hesitations to start couples therapy is a common experience “What if my partner doesn’t want to do couples counselling?” We get this question a LOT, and we have many clients with partners who are reluctant, not ready, or plain old and not interested in therapy. We understand why this comes up so often, as…
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What to Expect from Couples Counselling
What is couples counselling actually like? Some people imagine what you may see on-screen… the therapist saying “and how does that make you feel?” over and over. And although this may show up, it’s far from the full picture! Couples therapy is not one size fits all; a therapist will wear many hats depending…
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3 Important Times to Consider Couples Therapy
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb. Barriers to couples counselling The prospect of attending couples counselling can be intimidating and unfortunately comes with stigma, as many still carry the belief that it is a last-ditch effort to save the relationship. Many couples have a long…
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Depression in new dads
Damaging Assumptions about New Dads “Dads don’t know what they are doing with babies.” “Dads need to check decisions with the ‘lead’ parent.” “Dads don’t have good instincts.” Do these assumptions about new dads sound familiar to you? Unfortunately, these societal beliefs are common but can reinforce new fathers’ negative feelings, which then further contribute…
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Supporting a partner suffering from Perinatal Mood & Anxiety Disorders (PMADs)
Perinatal or postpartum mood and anxiety disorder (PMAD) is defined as distress that arises during pregnancy (perinatal) and throughout the first year after pregnancy (postpartum). The intensity of PMAD can range from mild to severe. It can be overwhelmed or confused when your partner is given a diagnosis of PMAD. You may not know where…
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Common Questions about Couples Counselling
It’s a common experience to feel intimidated by couples counselling, and unfortunately there is still a lot of stigma as to who exactly needs it and when. By the time a couple arrives in a therapist’s office too often there’s already been a lot of hurt and resentment built up. However, by seeing a couples…
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What is Your “Love Language”?
You may have heard your friends talk about it before – or you may have seen it written in a relationship column somewhere. Love Languages – what are these all about? This concept comes from the influential work of Dr. Gary Chapman and his book, The 5 Love Languages, which has become a staple in the…
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7 Truths about Commitment
On today’s blog, I share 7 Truths about Commitment, which I have distilled over the years in my work with relationship issues. #1. Commitment means more than saying ‘I do’ Weddings are an excellent opportunity for couples to celebrate their love and also vocalize their intentions in front of friends and family – who they…